Our thoughts are powerful. They can bring to fruition whatever we choose to focus on, good or bad. What we create in our lives, we first create in our minds.
A few years ago on a sunny afternoon, I finished up my grocery shopping and walked out of the store into the bright sunlight. In front of me were a dad and his two young daughters. The youngest was maybe 5 years old with long red hair, chubby little arms, and wearing a blue flowered sundress. She was absolutely adorable. Her dad leaned down and handed her a grocery bag. I could see through the plastic the outline of an egg carton.
“Don’t drop it. Do you hear me? Don’t drop the bag,” the dad warned the little girl. She nodded her head vigorously. I watched her trail along behind her dad and sister into the sun headed towards their car, her red hair shining.
And then she dropped the grocery bag. Her dad spun around yelling at her, reprimanding her. I could see shame and disappointment on the girl’s sweet freckled face, and I felt sad for her, disheartened by this scene.
I knew the child was going to drop the bag. It was practically inevitable. But why was this the case? How could I be so sure of how this scene would play out?
Aside from the fact that the girl was little and carrying something challenging for her size, the dad’s stern words of “don’t drop the bag” no doubt had the child intensely focused on just that – the idea of dropping the bag. I imagined her repeating the mantra to herself over and over.
What if her dad had said instead, “Hold onto the bag as tight as you can,” and had said it in an encouraging way. She would have focused on holding the bag, on accomplishing something. Rather than focusing on what she didn’t want to happen, she instead would have been focused on what she DID want to happen. Perhaps she still might have dropped the eggs, but I believe she would have had more of a fighting chance of making it across the parking lot.
When we think about something we don’t want, often that thing manifests in our lives because we are fixated on it. Shifting from the negative mind frame to the positive mind frame and focusing on what we DO want is more likely to manifest the good in our lives.
Thinking about something you do want allows you to visualize it and take steps to achieve it. It gives you a sense of confidence and incites action. Instead of thinking, “Don’t drop this. Don’t screw this up,” think to yourself, “Hold on tight. I can do this. I AM doing this.”
Focus on what you want for yourself rather than on what you don’t want.
In response to the Daily Post prompt